Relationship Counselling

You’re both feeling stuck on how to move forward and think it might be time to get some help. Your issue with sex that has been niggling in the background for a long time has started to cause frustration and discomfort between you and it’s become easier to just avoid sex altogether. You just want to be having the kind of sex that you used to have together before there were issues but you just don’t know how to find that again.

Relationship counselling offers a way to get things moving again by gently opening dialogue about topics that have been challenging in the relationship, offering an opportunities for each person to listen and be understood in new ways. Particularly where it comes to sex and intimacy, talking about what’s going wrong can bring up feelings of shame or vulnerability, and it makes sense to need some additional support to have these conversations in your relationship.

A somatic approach to relationship therapy is concerned with how different bodies and nervous systems relate to one another, experience and signal for safety or threat, and repeat behaviours that may belong to older survival processes that aren’t serving the current relationship. And certainly where trauma is in the mix we can be primed to protect rather than connect. Body-based approaches can offer new ways to relate to each other that build safety and connection, and practice opportunities to really get it in your body and update the relational blueprint.

A somatic approach to sex and intimacy issues in relationships also considers the impact that anxiety, stress and fatigue can have on the body, libido and sexual function, and the opportunity that building capacity for greater embodied presence can create for more connection and pleasure.

I work with couples, throuples and people in other relationship configurations, across all genders and sexualities. My practice acknowledges that the dominant or traditional conceptions of romantic or sexual relationships don’t fit for a lot of people, and successful relationship therapy requires a practitioner who isn’t trying to fit the relationship into a paradigm it doesn’t belong to.

If this resonates feel free to reach out and we can all have a chat about whether this might be a good fit.